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Why Are You Hitting Yourself?
You are your biggest bully.
You really need to stop that.
Before you blame yourself, know that you’re in good company. Most people bully themselves with punishing self-talk constantly! So constantly, they don’t even realize that it has simply become a habit — and is totally on autopilot.
The key word there is habit.
Habits are well-ingrained. However, the only way something got to be a habit in the first place is that you did it over and over and over again without doing it differently.
In order to change an existing habit, you need to do two things; one, become aware of what you do that does not serve you and two, decide what you are going to replace it with that does serve you (that you will begin to do over and over and over again until IT becomes your new habit).
You may be aware that there are also people who don’t beat themselves up constantly in their heads. They are not “lucky” or “better than you” or “wired differently.” No. The people who don’t bully themselves simply choose to DO some things differently than you.
The good news? Those things can be learned and applied by anyone!
Let’s get straight to the problem area — that six inches of real estate between your ears.
