Real Confidence

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Have you ever watched someone who seems incredibly confident on the outside, but when you get them out of their element, they’re quite insecure and worrisome?

Of course you have. We all have. (At times, we are that person.)

This is because they have worked on what they believe confidence “should” look like, but have never developed real confidence, which is internal.

Real confidence is something that’s inside of you. On the inside, confidence always looks and feels the same; that’s why it’s sustainable.

True confidence is all about being comfortable with yourself at all times. When you make a mistake, you learn from it and move on. When you succeed, you relish in the accomplishment for a moment, and then move on. When you feel good about something, you allow yourself to be aware of it and enjoy it, and then you move on. When you feel sad or down, you acknowledge it, allow yourself to feel it, decide what you’re going to do about it…and move on.

Internal confidence is about acknowledging, understanding, taking action and moving forward.

This process is about being in control of you, no matter what else is going on.

When you are in control of you, you can make deliberate choices as to how your confidence is going to look on the outside. It’s not left up to chance or…