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One Mindset Shift Away From “Toxic” People and Situations
Do you have any difficult, challenging, or toxic people in your life?
Ha! Is that a joke, Robin?!? Of course, you do. We all do!
When we talk about these people, we say things like “they’re driving me crazy” or “they’re stressing me out” or “they make my life a living hell.”
What we do in these instances is talk about them as if they are the problem. Anytime we give our power away to somebody else by believing that they are the ones making us feel a certain way, we are giving them way too much credit.
What we should be saying is, “I don’t like the person I become when I’m around that person.”
That one change of wording completely shifts your mindset from helpless to in control. In other words, if they are the problem, and they are the ones making me feel or act a certain way, I have no control over that. They have to change themselves, and I am at a loss because I can’t change other people. If I think about it like that, we can’t do anything about it.
However, if I take personal responsibility and I own the fact that I don’t like how I feel when I am around them, I’ve now taken charge, because I can do something about that. I am now in control of doing something to change that.
