Never Give Up Your Pen

Robin Sacks
3 min readFeb 28, 2022
Photo by Hannah Olinger on Unsplash

If you think of your own life as a play, movie, TV show or book, it makes you realize how in control you are. It puts the pen in your hand and, therefore, puts the power in your hand.

You are not only the author of your life, you are the protagonist of your own story. We all are the protagonists of our own stories…that it…assuming we are writing ourselves that way.

Every person in your life is another character. Some are co-stars, while others are extras; some are reoccurring characters, while others only make a single appearance and then move on to another show.

Many of these characters have lines, and although we can’t always write other characters’ lines in our show, we are completely in charge of writing our own.

Here is your challenge:

A challenge lies in the fact that, so often, we want to rewrite everyone else’s lines. We say things like, “Why did he say that to me?” or “Why did she do that?”

Here is your power:

The only lines in your life you are in charge of writing are your own. They are the ones you are responsible for. What you say and what you don’t say, whether you react to what other characters say or do, whether you choose to respond or ignore, all of that is in your control. Let the other characters ad lib, they are not your characters to script.

Here is your kryptonite:

When we write too much negative self-talk dialogue or lack of confidence into our own character, we ironically write ourselves as an antagonist in our own story. We are both the hero and the villain.

The problem?

You can only pick one. You have to decide which you are going to be…and then you have to be it.

Think about this…

When you watch a TV show or movie, read a book or watch a play, what gets you interested in the characters? You look at their actions, and you sometimes are able to get into their heads and discover what they’re thinking. You watch some personalities stay the same, while you watch others change. You question why people make the decisions they do, and why they don’t make decisions that seem obvious to make.

Robin Sacks

I speak, coach, and write about confidence, self-talk, and stress management. I also live for cozy mysteries and bad (read: good) puns.