I enjoy my morning coffee.
Maybe I’m a weirdo because I drink it for the taste, not the ‘pick me up.’ I don’t care if it’s decaf or regular, but rarely does a day go by when I don’t enjoy an early cup o’ joe.
My most frequented place to get java is a Dunkin about two minutes from my home. Part of my morning routine includes dropping my daughter off at school, getting in line at the drive-thru, and listening to my audiobook while I slowly creep forward, car length by car length.
But sometimes, something more than coffee…
We sometimes don’t believe in ourselves simply because we’re asking too many people— many of whom gave up on believing in themselves a long time ago— what they think.
Believing in ourselves begins (and ends) in our own heads. It starts with your self-talk (which, for most people, is negative and abusive). When we practice more self-awareness around our self-talk, we begin to see quickly that, one, WE are our own biggest bully and two, we understand better that WE can become our own biggest supporter instead…just by changing the words up there.
Changing your words changes your life.
In personal and professional development, people including myself are always talking about applying what you’ve learned. When you learn something new, and you don’t do something with that knowledge, that knowledge isn’t going to help you in any meaningful way.
But that doesn’t mean that you have to apply everything you learn. As a matter of fact, developing your “do nothing with that information” filter plays an important role in your life.
The key is deciding what to apply and what to walk away from; what to say yes to and what to say no to.
Your first thoughts might…
One of the questions I often get as a public speaking coach is, “How can I engage my audience better since they have shorter and shorter attention spans?”
Like many things, we often believe the other person is the challenge. In this instance, your belief that people seem to have ‘shorter attention spans’ is what is getting in your way — not the fact that you may not be that interesting to listen to as a presenter. ;)
Think about it…
When you are listening to something that is not interesting to you, don’t you have a short attention span?
Chances are you’re thinking about motivation all wrong!
Motivation is not a thing that sticks around for long. As a matter of fact, motivation is simply the spark that gets things started. After that spark, you have to take action or nothing will get accomplished.
Motivation is only a moment. But what you choose to do in those few minutes following a moment of motivation is what separates success from struggle.
A great way to get in the habit of creating more motivating moments for yourself is to limit yourself when you are motivated! …
You hear those words come out of your mouth and everything stops because you don’t know what to do next.
When you get stuck, you most likely have one or two problems that, once you figure out which you have, it becomes easier to put your life back in gear and hit the accelerator again.
Chances are you have either a strategy problem or a confidence problem.
If it’s a strategy problem, the way to get unstuck is to revisit you goals, actions, and results. Get clarity on what you were aiming for, what you were doing or…
Whenever the conversation moves to the topic of stress, someone inevitably starts talking about meditation. When that happens, one of two thoughts enter the listeners’ minds; they either think, ‘I keep hearing that can be helpful, but haven’t really tried it,” or “That’s something monks in robes do when they sit on top of mountains for days at a time.”
Like so many things, meditation is a tool that, when used correctly, can make a huge positive difference in not only your stress levels, but in every aspect of your life. But it’s never going to help you at all…
Some people move fast in life, while others move slowly.
Some keep their foot on the gas pedal, while others keep their foot on the brake.
If you’re doing any of those things consistently, it’s more challenging to get you where you want to go smoothly.
It’s the people who shift gears that excel.
Life is not a straight shot; there are hills and valleys, there are starts and stops. Sometimes you need to go around things and sometimes you need to put it in reverse to get clarity.
Most roads are not straight lines and most routes are not…
One of the reasons people don’t stick with things they start, even when those things are guaranteed to improve their lives, is that they think it needs to be harder and more complicated than it really is.
Part of the problem is that when things have been marketed to us as “easy” and “simple,” there’s usually so much more to it — we have been deceived, or only given part of the story, and so we believe that things are always more difficult than they are thought to be.
That’s not always true.
The other problem is that we have…
I speak, coach, and write about confidence, self-talk, and stress management. I also live for cozy mysteries and bad (read: good) puns.